Who Controls Your Life
Who Controls Your Life? –
Our body needs minerals and calcium heads up the list. We need it for strong bones and teeth, but also for muscles to function and nerve transmission to carry messages between the brain and nerves. Milk, yogurt and cheese are good sources of calcium: surprisingly so is spinach! As people age, calcium supplements are important to prevent osteoporosis – porous bones especially the vertebrae in our spine. We don’t want them looking like swiss cheese. The most absorbable form is calcium citrate and is best for people who suffer with inflammatory bowel disease.
So calcium helps control messages carried over the nervous system. We know the brain is the main control center of the body. It is the control tower. What controls our spiritual health? Who is in the control tower? Meditate on that for a while before continuing to read on.
The knee jerk answer is “I am”. Yes and no. You control what gets into your mind and heart with your eyes and ears: ear-gate and eye-gate. But who controls your life? If you’re young, your answer is “my parents”, or if married it might be “my spouse.” If you are a single parent you might answer, “my teenager”. Sometimes we really do feel like our life is out of control and we are at the mercy of others or circumstances.
The first commandment in Exodus 20: 3 says: “Thou shalt have no other gods before me”. God wants to be in control. He wants to be the one sitting on the throne of your life. I was raised to believe in individualism as a goal in life. Our culture emphasizes being self-reliant. I had to be because in the 1950’s my mother worked and I was a latch key child and was pretty much in charge of myself before mom got home at 5:00 pm. I faithfully did my homework while watching American Bandstand on TV. Yeah!
But interestingly, Jesus taught submission to the Father’s will as the epitome of spiritual health (John 5:30). Submit to His will and surrender control to Him. Some Christians keep God in a box and only let Him out on Sunday. They are in charge the rest of the week. Please talk to God on other days of the week because He wants to guide you and help you. His ways are higher than our ways and His thoughts higher than ours (Isaiah 55: 8-9). The Bible tells us not to lean on our own understanding (Prov. 3:5). He wants to shower His love and mercy on you everyday.
Does knowing God’s will for your life seem like a vague concept or even impossible to discern? There is no verse in the Bible that will tell you which career to pursue or job to take. But knowing God’s will is not as secretive as you think. Below is a list of areas where He makes His will plainly known:
1. Marriage. Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. A believer should not marry an unbeliever (2 Cor. 6:14). I’ve seen what happens when they do and arguments about the children’s’ upbringing and attending church is a problem. Once married, there are verses on how spouses should treat one another (Eph. 5:22-33; 1 Peter 3:1-7; 1 Cor. 7:3-5). Proverbs 31 describes an extraordinary woman who takes care of the household, children and owns a business. Quite a lady! There are many verses about divorce (Mark 10:4-9; Matt. 19:8-9; 1 Cor. 7:10-16). The topic is too large to handle here.
2. Raising Children. The Bible tells fathers not to provoke their children to be angry or discouraged (Eph. 6:4; Col. 3:21). We know mothers tend to be the nurturers and dads the disciplinarians. It is why children need both parents. In Deuteronomy 32:46 God told the people to teach their children to observe all the commands of the law. We need to be good examples to them of what it means to follow Christ.
Being good examples of God’s teaching3. Treatment of Others. Esteem others better than yourself (Phil 2:3). Love others with fervency (1 Peter 4:8). Do good to those who hate you and spitefully use you (Matt 5:44).
4. Lifestyle. Ephesians 5:18 admonishes against drunkenness and the other verses have much to say about clean living (Rom. 13:13; 1 Cor. 5:11, 1 Peter 4:3). Mind altering drugs fall into the same category. Anything which controls you instead of vice-versa. Now that I live in Colorado where marijuana is legal, I have already run into a worker in the grocery store whose eyes were glazed over and he moved in slow motion bagging my groceries. He was not in control!
5. Conversation. The Bible says our tongue is an unruly member of our body. James says we should bridle our tongue (James 1:26; 3:5-6). Ever wish you could retract something you said? People always seem to remember bad things that hurt them. Controlling our tongue is so important.
The above topics are not a list of “don’ts.” Many of the verses take a positive approach. These are just a few and I’ve already blogged too long for today. Perhaps in the future I will revisit some of these topics.
Let me end by saying that having God in control is so comforting. Sometimes I don’t listen and I have made plenty of mistakes, but somehow God sees me through it all. Romans 8:28 says: All things work together for good to those who love God and are called according to His purpose.
May God’s blessings fill you to overflowing today